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Muhammad ﷺ was forty when the first revelation came. Makkah had already spent four decades watching him. By the time he made a single claim about God, the people who would later call him a liar had been calling him Al-Ameen, the trustworthy, for years.
Not everything narrated about these years carries the same weight. Some of it is in Bukhari and Muslim. Some is well-known but has a weak chain of narration. Where that is the case, it is labelled, because a new Muslim being handed a shaky story as settled fact is how doubt gets planted later. The main narrative here follows Ar-Raheeq Al-Makhtum (The Sealed Nectar) by Safiur-Rahman Al-Mubarakpuri, alongside Ibn Hisham and Ibn Sa'd.
He was born in the Banu Hashim quarter of Makkah, in the Year of the Elephant, traditionally placed at 571 CE. His father ‘Abdullah had already died. So he arrived an orphan, into a society where an orphan had no protection and no earning power.
His grandfather ‘Abdul-Muttalib carried him to the Ka‘bah, thanked Allah, and named him Muhammad. Nobody in Arabia was called that. It means “the much-praised one”, and choosing it was odd enough that people remarked on it.
His first wet nurse was Thuwaybah, a freed slave of Abu Lahab. The same Abu Lahab who would later become one of his fiercest opponents.
Makkan families sent their babies out to bedouin wet nurses. Cleaner air, stronger bodies, and the desert Arabic was better than the town's. The nurses came into Makkah looking for infants, and they were paid by the child's father.
Which is why nobody took Muhammad ﷺ. Halimah bint Abi Dhu'ayb, of Banu Sa'd, said every woman in her party found a baby except her. It was a drought year. She was so short of milk her own son cried through the night. She went back for the orphan only because she could not face returning empty-handed, and she said as much, out loud, to her husband.
What she reported afterwards is the part people remember: milk where there had been none, a starving she-camel giving enough for all of them, a lean donkey outpacing the caravan home, and pasture where the land had been bare. She asked to keep him past weaning. She kept him until he was four or five.
Then, as Anas reported, Jibril came to him while he was playing with the other boys. He opened his chest, took out his heart, drew a clot from it and said: “That was Satan's portion of you.” He washed it and put it back. The children ran to Halimah shouting that Muhammad had been killed. They found him standing there, only pale. Anas said he could still see the mark on his chest.
Sahih Muslim AUTHENTICAfter the chest was opened, Halimah was frightened for him and took him home to Aminah. He stayed with his mother until he was six.
Then Aminah decided to visit her late husband's grave in Yathrib, the city later called Madinah. Five hundred kilometres, with her six-year-old, her father-in-law, and a servant named Umm Ayman. She stayed a month. On the road home she fell ill and died at Abwa.
By six he had lost both parents. The Quran later addresses this directly: “Did He not find you an orphan and give you shelter?” (93:6). The man who would spend his life insisting on the rights of orphans knew exactly what he was talking about.
‘Abdul-Muttalib took him in and openly favoured him over his own sons. Ibn Hisham describes a mattress kept in the shade of the Ka‘bah that nobody sat on but ‘Abdul-Muttalib. Muhammad ﷺ would go and sit on it. When his uncles tried to move him off, his grandfather stopped them: leave my grandson, this boy will hold a great position.
Two years later ‘Abdul-Muttalib died too. Muhammad ﷺ was eight. Care passed to Abu Talib, his father's full brother, who was not wealthy and had his own children to feed. Abu Talib put him ahead of them anyway, and protected him for the next forty years, right through the worst of the persecution, without ever accepting Islam himself.
Abu Talib took him on a trading journey to Syria. At Busra, a Christian monk called Bahira came out to meet the caravan, something he had never done before, and went straight to the boy. He told Abu Talib this child would be sent with a message of mercy to the whole world, and said he recognised him by the seal between his shoulders and by descriptions in his own scriptures. He advised Abu Talib to take him home rather than on into Syria.
Fighting broke out between Quraysh and Banu Kinanah on one side and Qays ‘Aylan on the other, and it dragged on for years. They are called the Fijar, the sacrilegious wars, because the fighting spilled into the sacred months when weapons were supposed to be put down.
His part in it was small and telling. He gathered the arrows the enemy fired and passed them to his uncles. He did not shed blood in a war his own people considered a violation.
A merchant from the Zubayd tribe sold goods to Al-‘As bin Wa'il, a Makkan of standing, who simply refused to pay. The merchant had no clan in Makkah to lean on. He asked several Quraysh for help and was ignored. So he climbed a hill above the city and shouted his complaint in verse until everyone had heard it.
It worked. Az-Zubayr bin ‘Abdul-Muttalib took it up, and clans met at the house of ‘Abdullah bin Jud'an, Banu Hashim, Banu al-Muttalib, Asad, Zuhrah and Taym, and swore to stand with anyone wronged in Makkah until his right was returned. Then they went and got the man his money.
Years later, as a Prophet, he said of that pact: I witnessed a confederacy in the house of ‘Abdullah bin Jud'an that I would not trade for a herd of red camels. If I were called to it now, in Islam, I would answer.
Reported in the sirah literature, incl. Ibn HishamHe endorsed an agreement made by idol-worshippers, before Islam, because it was just. Justice did not become worth defending only once it had a Muslim name on it.
He herded sheep, for Banu Sa'd and later in Makkah for a wage. He mentioned it himself later, without embarrassment, when his companions were surprised: every prophet, he said, herded sheep.
By twenty-five he was trading. Khadijah bint Khuwaylid (ra) was a wealthy Makkan businesswoman who hired men on commission to run her caravans. She heard about his honesty specifically, and offered him better terms than she gave anyone else to take her goods to Syria. She sent her servant Maysarah along.
The caravan came back with more profit than usual, and Maysarah came back with an account of how the man had conducted himself. Khadijah had turned down every prominent man in Makkah who had asked for her. She sent her friend Nafisah bint Munyah to sound him out. He agreed, his uncles spoke to her family, and they married. The dowry was twenty camels.
All of his children except Ibrahim were hers: Al-Qasim, Zaynab, Ruqayyah, Umm Kulthum, Fatimah and ‘Abdullah. The sons died as infants. Every daughter except Fatimah died in his lifetime, and Fatimah outlived him by six months.
He married no one else while she was alive. Twenty-five years, in a society with no limit on wives and no stigma attached. When people ask about his later marriages, this is the stretch of his life they have usually never been told about.
The Ka‘bah was low, roofless and cracked, and a flash flood had nearly finished it off. Quraysh decided to rebuild, and agreed to fund it only with clean money. Nothing from usury, prostitution or extortion went into the walls. They ran out before the job was done, which is why they shortened one side and left out the semicircular area now called the Hijr, and why they raised the door off the ground so they could control who got in.
Work went fine until it came to setting the Black Stone back. Every clan wanted the honour. It deadlocked for four or five days and got close to bloodshed, in the middle of rebuilding their own sanctuary.
The oldest of them proposed a way out: the next man to walk through the gate decides. Muhammad ﷺ walked in. The shout went up, Al-Ameen has come, and they accepted his ruling before he had said a word.
He asked for a cloak, laid the stone in the middle of it, and told each clan to take an edge. They carried it up together. Then he lifted the stone into place with his own hands.
He was thirty-five, five years from revelation, with no authority over anyone. Clans ready to kill each other handed him the decision on sight. That reputation is the thing Makkah could not un-know when he later stood up and told them the truth about their idols.
He kept away from the idols, from wine, from meat slaughtered at the stone altars, and from the festivals. He could not stand to hear people swear by Al-Lat and Al-‘Uzza. He was quiet, and the silence seems to have been where the thinking happened.
He admitted, later, to twice setting off to do what young men in Makkah did. Both times he got as far as a wedding party, sat down to listen to the music, and fell asleep until the sun woke him. He never tried a third time.
Jabir reported that while they were carrying stones for the Ka‘bah, Al-‘Abbas told him to put his waist-wrap over his shoulder to cushion the load. He did, and fell to the ground with his eyes turned upward. He got up calling for his wrap, and covered himself. He was never seen uncovered again.
Sahih al-Bukhari AUTHENTICHis people gave him the name Al-Ameen by common agreement. Not a title he claimed. A description they arrived at.
And when the first revelation left him shaking, Khadijah (ra) told him: Never. By Allah, Allah will never disgrace you. You keep good relations with your kin, you help the poor and the destitute, you serve your guests generously, and you stand by people in trouble.
Sahih al-Bukhari 3 AUTHENTICThat is the man who went up to the cave at Hira. Everything after it is the next forty years.
The forty years after this, and what people made of him.
His character is the part of the sirah that does the most work with people who are still deciding what they think.
Read: The light of humanity Read: Prophet of mercy and justiceThe people who accepted him first were the ones who had watched him for forty years. That is not a coincidence.
Read: Why the companions embraced Islam Read: How Islam transformed the ArabsAl-Ameen was a reputation earned in ordinary transactions long before there was a religion attached to it.
Read: Good character and manners in Islam Read: Truth in characterSixth-century Arabia, and what the world looked like when he was born into it.
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